What’s in a day?
Picture this, it’s just after 6 in the morning, you’re just beginning to stir and face a new day. What do you do next?….. For some, it’s just another day. That was me, before I realised how much the little things make me happy.
Having spent periods of my life turning over in my bed, pulling the cover over, not having the energy to face another day. When I did make it out of bed, I would look to retreat at any given moment. I knew things had to change but little did I know then, how effective the simple things in life were.
Motivational author Louise Hay, reminds us in her quote that,
” HOW YOU START YOUR DAY, IS HOW YOU LIVE YOUR DAY. HOW YOU LIVE YOUR DAY IS HOW YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE.”
How true she is !!!………………. And how I would have argued,” it’s not as simple as that”.
Waking up and smelling the roses.
I’ve always had a fascination for words and personal development. I thought the more I read, the more I would learn and that would be the answer to solving all my woes. However, I found myself lost in this world where I read but didn’t really believe, and I thought what I was reading was all too simple. I thought in order to feel any benefit it needed to be far more complicated than that.
It now reminds me of words I used to say to my children when they were younger, when they questioned ”Is Santa real Mummy?”
My reply being, ” If you believe in Santa, you keep the magic, but sadly if you stop believing then the magic goes”.
Never has a truer word been said. I had lost all the magic by not really believing what I was learning or reading and because I had surmised that it needed to be more difficult than that, I wasn’t ‘doing’.
I was continually trying to get through each day as I hadn’t woken up and smelt the roses to what was available to me.
Back to basics.
I know I’m not the only one with their head down, dreading what was to become of the day but at times it felt like it. Little did I realise that my childhood grace before meals was so beneficial. I just said grace because that is what we did. How many of us, just follow suit because we are told to, or just follow the crowd without really ever thinking about what we are doing and therefore never recognising the importance it may hold?
We learn to take things for granted.
The busier life gets, the more competition, the need to fit in, all contribute to our lack of appreciation for the wonder of the magical little things.
As stated earlier I knew things had to change and then one day that’s just what happened, I started ‘doing’. I had read about gratitude many times before but still not linked it with my childhood mealtime rituals and so dismissed it again. still believing it surely couldn’t be enough. However things got to a stage where I needed to do something as I was losing everything around me. So I purchased a gratitude journal and became determined to make it the first thing I did every morning. At first, it was so hard, learning to train myself to see things differently and recognise what I had in my life to be grateful for, whilst keeping the momentum but then the magic began.
And so the wonder begins.
There is a myth that it takes 21 days to change a habit and whether true or not, I found it useful to build my momentum, especially in the first few days. Then I began to notice the change in how I felt when I wrote about the little things I was grateful for, like the sound of the waves roaring, the fiery sunset at night, the squirrels playing mischievously in the park, the birds singing soulfully, the glistening of the sun hitting the sea and the sound of children playing in the school playground. I began to feel more alive and connected to the scent and beauty of the flowers , the sound of my children coming in the door after a day at school, singing at the top of their voices, the joy of watching my husband skimming pebbles with our children at the beach, down to being grateful for the water I drink and the food I have on my table.
All of this available to me each and every day but I had forgotten how much this all meant to me until I made it my focus and woke up to the little things that make me happy. The more I wrote in my journal each day the more I was thankful for what I had.
A little reminder.
So picture this, its just after 6 in the morning, you’re just beginning to stir and face a new day, What do you do next?…….Will you wake up to the magic that is laying dormant inside of you or see it as just another day?
Here is a poem from e.a.s found in Word Porn that helps to highlight my point. I hope you enjoy.
It’s the little things.
Sunsets, coffee, long drives,
Giggles, sappy movies, ice-cream,
deep conversation, cozy socks and
music. These things are so little,
yet mean a great deal to me.
Suppose, it is not the extent of
things ”small or big” that
make a difference.
But perhaps, the extent to which
they spark a fire in you’re soul, that
no substance on earth can extinguish,
leaving you to burn with
a passion for life.
I would love to read you’re comments, please let me know if this post has been useful to you and if I can help in any way, please let me know.
Remember happiness starts with you.
All the best