Some of the biggest reconnection moments in my life haven’t arrived during calm, peaceful days at all.
They’ve shown up in the middle of the chaos…
on the grey mornings…
in the moments where I felt stretched, tired, or a little lost in myself.
For a long time, I thought reconnection was something you had to plan.
A perfect slow morning.
A tidy home.
A regulated nervous system.
A soft sky and a clear head.
And yes — those moments are beautiful when they happen.
But I’ve also learned something different.
Reconnection doesn’t wait for perfect conditions.
It doesn’t need everything in your life to line up neatly or feel peaceful.
Sometimes it begins in the smallest, messiest spaces — right in the middle of a feeling you didn’t want, or a thought you didn’t expect.
Sometimes it’s one slow breath.
Sometimes it’s a pause where you notice your shoulders are tense.
Sometimes it’s whispering, “Okay… I’m still here,” even when you feel wobbly.
Sometimes it’s feeling the waves move inside you and choosing not to abandon yourself.
These tiny moments — the ones we don’t think count — are often the moments that matter most.
Because reconnection isn’t about perfection.
It’s about presence.
When I first studied counselling skills many years ago, I used to look at some of the tutors and honestly believe they had everything together — calm lives, tidy emotions, perfect relationships, inner peace on tap.
And I remember thinking,
“If I want to feel okay, I have to get my life perfect… just like them.”
I tried to emulate that for a long time.
I thought peace came from fixing everything.
From getting life “right.”
But life has taught me something softer, kinder, and far more human:
It’s not about having your life perfect.
It’s about learning to accept all parts of yourself in every season — the light, the shadow, the messy middle.
When you stop striving for perfection and start allowing your whole self, something gently shifts.
That’s where peace begins.
And that’s where joy starts growing quietly inside you.
And maybe you’re in one of those imperfect moments today.
Maybe your energy is a little low.
Maybe your mind is busy.
Maybe your heart is heavier than usual.
If so, you’re not doing anything wrong.
You haven’t missed your chance to reconnect.
You can come back to yourself right now — with a breath, or a hand on your heart, or a soft awareness of “this is how I feel today.”
Reconnection is allowed to be small.
It’s allowed to be quiet.
It’s allowed to be imperfect.
And you are allowed to return to yourself as many times as you need.
Because happiness begins with you – and as we like to say at Little Shop of Happiness,
little moments create big joy.
With warmth,
Ali 
💛 What tiny moment helped you reconnect today?
I’d love to hear — your answers often help others feel less alone.